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for something that "everybody does," for something that is morally ordinary. Not virtuous, not right, but entirely ordinary.

A guy who DIDN'T keep pushing until he got a clear "no, stop touching me, I'm leaving" would be considered either virtuous or gay, tbh.

If he had done the right thing, it would have been like... a story to tell your girlfriends about an unusually decent man, right?

But the opposite moral instinct (which was 100% my reaction) is: she clearly expressed, verbally and not, a desire to stop touching.

He failed to stop. This might be normal, but it is NOT right, and not even acceptable. To focus on what's normal is to focus on him over her

And our work is all about moving privilege out of the center of all of our considerations and focusing on those we have ignored.

And from her POV, what he did was pretty awful. Monstrous even. Its ordinariness doesn't change that at all for her.

(Obvious parallel: slavery. Nice masters were unusually good! But should their slaves have hated them any less?)