Okay shit one serious rebuke to the Dudes Who Have Feelings About Cat Person: surely you noticed that on multiple occasions she is afraid for her life. Dimly afraid, but afraid. And yet you expect emotional honesty from this woman. Really?
it means thinking "what can I do to signal to this other human that they can be honest with me?" It means like... asking her what she wants to do? And yes yes yes all partners should do this but men have a SPECIAL responsibility to do all that bc power dynamics.