Okay shit one serious rebuke to the Dudes Who Have Feelings About Cat Person: surely you noticed that on multiple occasions she is afraid for her life. Dimly afraid, but afraid. And yet you expect emotional honesty from this woman. Really?
but in all cases the power dynamic between genders is present. It may be overridden by stronger factors having to do with the two individuals, but there is no case where gendered power dynamics simply vanish from the equation.