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Finding it hard to distinguish between a) concerns/qualms/complaints/desires that are legit and worth discussing with the people involved b) c/q/c/d's that are not rooted in reality and are instead a product of my mental illness, childhood vices etc.

instead of making this distinction you can go in a more NVC-ish direction and cleanly separate 1) a feeling you’re having, e.g. “i feel sad” 2) a story about the feeling, e.g. “i imagine you hate me now” 3) a request you’d like to make, e.g. “plz say if you rly hate me”

“legit” is a tricky concept here because it risks conflating at least three distinct questions: 1) am i “allowed” to feel this way? 2) is my story “true”? 3) is the request i want to make “reasonable”? each of which comes with its own tricky concept too!