all of this advice is downstream of / generated by something more fundamental. what is it? if i had to name it, maybe "understand, deeply, that the person you're listening to is real, exists as much as you do, and is a person you could love"https://twitter.com/dremilyanhalt/status/1149165769067884544 …
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True listening is a shared flow state. I liken it to being a mirror. You work to hold the story as it's presented to you, facilitating its expanding through questions and curiosity. It's just a shape from another's mind, so it can't be "wrong" or "incorrect".
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And the point: Making sense of ourselves is hard. Like forcing a dream into a story-shape - that's all of life. Having someone who can hold the pieces while you fit them together is invaluable.
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Listen quietly; show you’re present with nods not words
Don’t be thinking of what to say next
Allow for pauses & silence
Ask questions to help the speaker deepen or expand
Don’t feel compelled to fix or give advice
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