so the edge of your comfort zone is actually a whole zone, if you zoom in, it’s like at least a football field (thread)
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I tend to imagine social consequences if I were to fail/do something silly/ get in danger and need rescuing
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I think in these situations it’s good to 1) know that you are going/planning to be in this kind of scenario 2) expect to experience turbulence 3) try to increase your patience/tolerance/chill when the discomfort invariably begins
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It’s like strapping on your seatbelt when the airplane hits turbulent air haha it is very helpful for keeping calm and not catastrophizing/immediately bailing
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Every time you venture out into this zone you clear more and more unknown factors, you feel less fear because you are more oriented. And then you find you have more space to move around in the (physical, emotional, social, etc) world
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Not everything is worth pushing yourself for; if you’re happy in an area definitely cool to stay there. For me sometimes I have zero interest, or the concept is repulsive/causes negative visceral reaction I’m like eh not for me
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But other areas, especially the ones where I feel this mix of intense inspiration/admiration + fear… I’m like okay I have to go for it!!!
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For increasing chill, I do things like: telling myself I knew this would come up, things will fall into place, it’s unlikely that I die/get hurt, tell myself to hang in there and see what happens (since I’m in an ambiguous place already and weird/magical things tend to happen)
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And I think that’s why I advocate for doing this, you walk into the fog of the “unknown unknowns” and it has brought me some of my best life experiences
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