I recently watched Scenes from a Marriage (directed by Ingmar Bergman) and it painstakingly played out my deepest fears about marriage as a non-married 27 year old. (Thread)pic.twitter.com/p5MvImfXsF
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4. avoiding (physical separation and avoiding eachothers presence), and 5. terminating (you end the relationship). pretty depressing! but it leads me to think that another step to avoid that scary lower left quadrant is things like emphasizing your similarities over differences
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I like this idea a lot because it's more specific than "be kind" and "make an effort". Instead of "Be kind", it's "talk about how you guys are similar to eachother." Instead of "make an effort", it's "Make sure to talk about the hard things/elephant in the room."
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Something that comes to mind is the idea of the Relationship Escalator, and how there are actually ways to de-escalate a relationship without it necessarily meaning that you are about to break up. https://offescalator.com/what-escalator/
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Factors that are available for de-escalation include being open, living apart, having separate finances, going on solo trips with friends, etc. Good to mull over, for me I think it'd require a lot of high protocol communication, structured plans, and trust.
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