poll: how strong is your sense of having a definite self / identity? (to try to gesture at what i'm asking here: to what extent do you feel like the same person you were a year ago? to what extent do you feel like the same person with different groups of people?)
different contexts can pull dramatically different performances out of us, but that’s not a sign of a weak identity (i.e. you probably *should* act differently at a funeral vs. at a party)
