right now, most of our social graphs are *involuntarily* in stasis this is unnatural and strangely uncomfortable
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humans are intensely social animals—we relentlessly and instinctually form, maintain, and update thousands of interpersonal/parasocial relationships some people might have different relational styles, but you can’t really turn your social brain off
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to cultivate and maintain your network of relationships, you have to interact with each person at a certain frequency (i.e. spaced repetition, but for people instead of ideas)https://twitter.com/choosy_mom/status/1222292632111472640 …
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chad donkey from shrek 2 @choosy_momThis has a lot to do with time scarcity and frequency requirements Most of us contact our primary partners daily, but Dunbar proposes that you need to interact with a friend at least weekly to qualify for the 5-layer, monthly for the 15-layer, and annually for the 150-layer pic.twitter.com/eYIuMvSZBoShow this thread1 reply 0 retweets 6 likesShow this thread -
most of these frequent interactions happen organically via work, school, clubs, parties, and the communal rituals they generate unless you work alone and live in a very rural place, you probably have a fairly dense social infrastructure built into your daily routine
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in quarantine, this infrastructure disappears—the number of interactions you can have in a day plummets accordingly, the depth and number of relationships you can maintain also shrinks it also becomes far more difficult to establish and develop new relationships
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i suspect many of us will emerge from this quarantine with a few empty dunbar slots it’ll be like going on holiday during school and making new acquaintances as you settle back in (except everyone had a stressful, lonely summer)https://twitter.com/choosy_mom/status/1222292640311365632 …
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