when my parents or friends ask me how i’m doing, i almost always tell them “things are great!” in retrospect, i’ve said this even when things were decidedly not great but interestingly, it didn’t feel like i was lying or concealing anything at the time
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there are lots of bad times that can easily be mistaken for good times (e.g. abusing your body, toxic relationships, most of twitter) in the right conditions, this can drag on for yearshttps://twitter.com/choosy_mom/status/1237481685349851141 …
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there was a pretty long period in college where i was managing social anxiety and insecurities by binging on basically everything—bad times
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at the time, i thought everything was going great. i told my parents and friends about my good grades, campus projects, exciting social scene, etc. i fooled myself too: “i’m working hard and playing harder! i’m getting tons of validation!”
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i suspect that most of us possess fearsome powers of rationalization and motivated reasoning we believe things are going well because we *want* to believe things are going well
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so now my goal is to learn to distinguish, in real time, between: 1. actually good times 2. seems good, but actually bad times
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