No matter how much we strive to represent ourselves and interpret each other accurately, we’re unavoidably limited to incomplete mental models of each otherhttps://twitter.com/choosy_mom/status/1226651994003099649 …
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Over time, this social feedback loop primes us to lean towards uncharitable interpretations Innocent jostling calcifies into general cynicism, and you end up in a society full of distrustful people with a weak/nonexistent sense of out-group empathy
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One solution is to widen your in-group umbrella to encompass as many people as possible This can be fruitful, but it also demands a lot of updating and definition-setting More importantly, it still requires you to establish an out-group
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A better solution is to hack your charitable vs. uncharitable interpretive tendencies It’s difficult (maybe impossible) to turn off your negative-judgmental brain, but you can make a conscious effort to assume best intentions and love your out-grouphttps://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1223254341173121024 …
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If you perform this good faith character long enough, you become an *actually* generous and thoughtful perceiver of other peoplehttps://twitter.com/choosy_mom/status/1221682547756691458 …
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This strategy pays dividends for rationalists, social climbers, AND empaths: 1. More realistic models of other people (we all interpret ourselves charitably) 2. Durable social status (not contingent on scorning an out-group) 3. Happy relationships (people like you—good vibes!)
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