goal-oriented interactions are exercises in how the priorities of each node will play out in the partial sync they create. everyone from Dale Carnegie to Roosh V is trying to tell you how to facilitate and exploit this, from cutesy tricks like mirroring up to life orientations
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one thing this means is that if you need to engage in a goal-oriented interaction, think about & plan for downside risks and failure modes *well beforehand*. when you're actually going into the interaction, you should be thinking about nothing but successful interactions like it
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if you have no experience of success in the type of interaction, you should be thinking about examples of success you've witnessed. failing that, success you can vaguely imagine. this is because failure modes are themselves attractor basins in the phase space of cognition
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so if you are thinking about failure, if you are worrying about failure, you are *running failure software*, and the cognitive processes which the other party does you the honor of sharing with you will become infected with failure and lead them to facilitate your failure
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this, of course, leaves you in the position of the classic Russian mental exercise "see how long you can go without thinking of a white bear". good luck, have fun
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concur telling the truth means not having to remember anything
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broke: remembering all the lies you've told to different people woke: keeping separate personalities for all the different people you've lied to
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yeah, it's highly analogous to the principle that you should never write code that's as clever as you can write, because debugging it is twice as hard so now you're half as clever as it takes to debug it lying is clever
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While i agree in principle, i have yet to encounter it in a serious discussion where it is *not* used by some idiot pulling the rest down to their level. As in "`const names = http://items.map (item => http://item.name )` cant be understand by mere mortals!11!"
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that's one way to start off a good as hell Philip K. Dick novel, sure
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