kindness to people who've been kept in emotional cages by malignant narcissistic masters of "you can't complain about me because i'm being nice" does not look the same as kindness to people who've been kept in line by fear of violence
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Replying to @selentelechia
tending toward "not nice"
"everyone is different" is EXTREMELY important here but features commonly useful would i think include a safe space for hostility, trust that the interaction exists on its own terms rather than being socially overdetermined, a frank sort of demeanor2 replies 0 retweets 8 likes -
Replying to @chaosprime @selentelechia
what do you mean by 'interaction exists on its own terms rather than being socially overdetermined'
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a socially overdetermined interaction is a highly scripted one, where there are significant cultural expectations of how you're going to respond. malignant narcissists are amazing at using those to prevent you from responding to them honestly under threat of group censure
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