kindness to people who've been kept in emotional cages by malignant narcissistic masters of "you can't complain about me because i'm being nice" does not look the same as kindness to people who've been kept in line by fear of violence
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yes this is why everybody hates it and ganged up on it to destroy it
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it does seem to be somewhat based in an assumption like...if you are seen being sufficiently Good, it's a violation of fairness to engage in confrontation or hostility I'm not sure how you avoid *some* implicit transactional reasoning whenever you get into navigating fairness
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i see it as a Xanatos Gambit where, no matter how intrinsically unfair their demands are, they'll get their way, because if you play nice they'll win because they're better at it, and if you get pissed they'll win because everybody will turn against you since they were Being Nice
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"everyone is different" is EXTREMELY important here but features commonly useful would i think include a safe space for hostility, trust that the interaction exists on its own terms rather than being socially overdetermined, a frank sort of demeanor