i mean, sure it's wrong, the foundational reason we have feelings is the evolutionary pressure to regulate away from reproductive risk, but the degree to which it approximates not being wrong is interesting
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Erm I think there is only a certain type of person who views another’s feelings as an obligation onto himself ahahahahahahahahahaha
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sometimes though when you live in a society that society decides that obligation exists independently of your acceptance of it
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O.O I think the ppl who think revealing emotion is done to control you tend to be revealing something about themselves.
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such as that their cultural context is one where revealing emotion is commonly done for purposes of control?
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What kind of culture is that lmao
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But I’m not getting what is happening here maybe
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okay, let's break it down. Alice tells Bob that Bob doing X hurts her feelings 1) is Alice attempting to exercise control over Bob? 2) is Bob obligated to stop doing X? 3) if Bob does not stop doing X, is he unfeeling?
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None of these options seem stable — Alice and bob need to discuss whether or why X is happening.
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How important is X to bob? Is X important enough that he doesn’t really care about Alice’s feeling hurt or things are unpleasant for her? If so then just be straight with Alice. If Alice retaliates that implies something about Alice o__o
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okay. if this is a usable frame for the situation, then no, you are not participating in a social context where feelings are a viable mechanism of control
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