I have a friend who has told me of a similar experience. After escaping them, he actually ended up coming out as a trans guy to boot. They had made him too ashamed of being himself.
i recall you mentioned before that they'll actually dox their own members to keep them in line or punish them if they slip from being an obsessive hatemonger
and they do it by leaking the dox to transfolk expecting them to take revenge, so they can then blame the transfolk
You gotta do you (& I mean that), but genuinely: empathizing with a narcissist can ruin yr life. Empathizing with a sociopath can get you killed. I know this sorta things seems like a nice thing to say & I get that, but truly, empathizing w/the ACTUAL worst is rly dangerous...
Iβve tried messaging some of the more innocent seeming people on r/gc to tell them they can ask me whatever and maybe I can help clear up some misconceptions they might have
None of them ever responded :/
I'm the same with incels. I've seen how terrible, manipulative, and toxic they are to each other. Step out of line and they'll bully and harass you to no end.