Pretty depressed about having to move to CA... I bought my first house because the $1200 mortgage was about what I paid in rent. But in CA the same house would be at least $1.2 million dollars, with a 1.25% property tax, so basically $1250 a month, just in tax
FYI if you move, CA Health Care Services has an OT/PT program that might be useful: http://www.dhcs.ca.gov/services/ccs/Pages/MTP.aspx …. Also I'm told NDTA https://www.ndta.org/ and AACPDM https://www.aacpdm.org/ might be relevant. Best wishes for Alastair and family.