That’s usually my philosophy when it comes to uncertainty and I’d say it’s worked pretty well for me in general but lately I’ve been thinking that it might not be as healthy as I thought
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If the period of uncertainty is very long, and if the variance between “the worst” and “the best” is too big, it can lead to torturing yourself by constantly alternating between them,
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allowing yourself to be very hopeful as long as you compensate by spending prolonged time periods replaying the worst-case scenario in your head
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And in the meantime, in the moments where I’m not being hopeful or pessimistic and I just try to be as objectively realistic as I can, I remind myself: It’s probably going to be not as bad as I think, but also not as good as I’d like
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I know why I do this. Because if there’s a best-worst case spectrum, nailing the right point where things will land is too hard
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And while I’ve never believed in “being a pessimist because I’d rather be surprised than disappointed”, clearly I’m still afraid of disappointment itself (which probably is very normal and very hard to avoid)
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But I’m starting to think that avoiding disappointment isn’t worth the slow torture of trying to maintain two opposite scenarios in my head, and it’s probably healthier to keep to just one middle-ground expectation
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which shouldn’t be that off, if you’ve become good at making predictions (and that’s something I aspire to be)
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