These other replies prove, once again, lack of empathy and understanding by cis males. I want to say, "It's not that nuanced guys." Or, "Maybe if this was their girlfriend, wife, mother, sister or daughter they'd understand. " but I know better.
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Replying to @intentionalit @JoLucyBradley
Statically the men you are profiling are 2 or 3 Times more likely to be murdered than you. Are these the same men that need to do better? Who’s responsible for their safety?
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Yes, they are those same men and the ones responsible for their safety are the men that would do them harm same as anyone else. It's your job to not kill anyone. Can you handle that?
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Replying to @Antiloquy @Grumpy434 and
Giving responsibility to those who would do me harm doesn't sound like a good idea. Taking responsibility allows me to affect outcomes. The only person I can change is myself. Otherwise I'll be a victim. It's not a moral right/wrong argument. It's how to take control.
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Replying to @benohanlon @Grumpy434 and
And I'm not suggesting that if you get attacked there's nothing you can do, however, I wouldn't say the responsibility to prevent or mitigate the attack was yours. Most people are 100% responsible for their own actions; it makes sense then to tell the people who are doing the
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Replying to @Antiloquy @Grumpy434 and
The point about taking responsibility is a pragmatic one that empowers you. Stocism and
@jockowillink podcast are advocates of this mindset. In the world I know two things... 1. No-one is coming to save you. 2. You who would be free must strike the first blow.3 replies 1 retweet 0 likes -
Replying to @benohanlon @Grumpy434 and
Look, taking responsibility is great. You're totally responsible if you eat a dozen doughnuts at once. You would also be totally responsible if you murdered someone, regardless of what they did, because you are still making the decision to act on your impulse to murder them. They
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Replying to @Antiloquy @Grumpy434 and
That misses the point. If you want to influence the outcome of something you must take responsibility for it. The thief is responsible for what they steal, but if I don't want my stuff to be stolen I'll need to take responsibility for securing and protecting it.
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Replying to @benohanlon @Antiloquy and
A friend who borrows money and doesn't pay you back is responsible. Some might lose that friend out of anger and disappointment. However, if you take responsibility for the behaviour you engage with you can stilll be friends. Wipe the debt and never lend them any more money.
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Replying to @benohanlon @Grumpy434 and
Well, whatever you decide to do about your friend is irrelevant here, but does it not make more sense for a hypothetical third party to tell the friend to pay back the money rather than telling you not to lend?
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Yeah. But if that doesn't work, then learn from it. Don't rely on other people to change. You can only really change yourself. Self-reliance and stocism are super powers.
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Replying to @benohanlon @Grumpy434 and
Then fine, but the one still at fault is the friend for not paying you back, than you for simply not being paid back.
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