The 15 minute walk home from my local cinema is usually a pleasant one. Tonight, I have to look twice at every man I walk past. "Situational Awareness" get fucked. It's not my job to be constantly monitoring my own safety; It's men's jobs to do better.
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That misses the point. If you want to influence the outcome of something you must take responsibility for it. The thief is responsible for what they steal, but if I don't want my stuff to be stolen I'll need to take responsibility for securing and protecting it.
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But if it gets stolen, it's still not your fault for stealing it because you didn't do it. Look, I know that this is not a perfect world where we can automatically trust people to always do the right thing. I'm just saying it's pointless to tell the person who's not doing
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It seems like you're conflating taking responsibility for outcomes with absolving others of their responsibility?
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You remember the metaphor of the scorpion and the frog right? It's like that.
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A friend who borrows money and doesn't pay you back is responsible. Some might lose that friend out of anger and disappointment. However, if you take responsibility for the behaviour you engage with you can stilll be friends. Wipe the debt and never lend them any more money.
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Well, whatever you decide to do about your friend is irrelevant here, but does it not make more sense for a hypothetical third party to tell the friend to pay back the money rather than telling you not to lend?
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Yeah. But if that doesn't work, then learn from it. Don't rely on other people to change. You can only really change yourself. Self-reliance and stocism are super powers.
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Then fine, but the one still at fault is the friend for not paying you back, than you for simply not being paid back.
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anything wrong to change themselves instead of telling the person who is doing wrong to change themselves. My problem is with the narrative here.
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The frog can tell the scorpion not to sting him when carrying him across the river. The frog can contract, persuade, cajole, threaten and warn. He's still getting stung.
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People are not scorpions or frogs. We have a big ass brain partly because we lack instinct and can make judgments based on forethought and ethics.
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