It’s #NationalComingOutDay!
Last year, I came out to my mom while we were FaceTiming. I’d wanted to come out in person, but I kept losing my nerve. Then she asked me about dating nice boys and I blurted out that I was dating a woman. 1/
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Her eyes went wide, her face paled, then we were interrupted and we hung up. A few days later, she texted me 2/pic.twitter.com/NkT6P6Hj6s
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I’ll admit I felt a pang. I’d hoped for one of those “I always figured now clean your room” moments you always see (which is totally unfair because, EYE didn’t even always know). But she IS conservative - I was raised Evangelical - so this wasn’t the worst possible reaction 3/
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This was the rest of our exchange (minus a parting “please stay pure” comment because she’s still religious) 4/pic.twitter.com/JDbSzxTYvJ
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It was the first time I’d RISKED something by coming out. My community in DC is artistic and queer and trans and/or non-binary and all colors of that spectrum. Nobody blinked when I came out here. But I knew my mom would, and it terrified me. I was shaking. 5/
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It’s a tough thing, coming out. It’s even tougher when your coming out is difficult (or worse) for your loved ones. I’m lucky my mom came to the conclusion she came to, that she asked questions instead of icing me out. 6/
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I said earlier this week that I was reading the graphic novel ‘My Brother’s Husband’ around this time - it was really helpful for me to see someone visibly uncomfortable w/ a family member’s sexuality at first slowly come around to it. 7/
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It gave me hope that I maybe wouldn’t have to linger in that awkward “we’re pointedly avoiding this subject” limbo forever. That maybe my mom could learn to swallow her discomfort. 8/
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In the end, I didn’t really have to worry because a couple months later, she asked me if I’d talked with my gf about having children and was like “you could each have one!” so she shot right past accepting to “get married and have grandbabies.”
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Happy
#ComingOutDay. If you’re not in a position to do so, I see you, you’re valid. Be kind and true to yourself wherever/however you feel safe. 10/103 replies 1 retweet 20 likesShow this thread
Lovely thread, Mallory. Thank you for sharing.
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