A lot of our problems with trust - in relationships, politics, and consensus protocols come from conceptualising it as a binary trust/no trust thing, or a simple spectrum. How I think about trust, a level system:
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This came from thinking about relationships, but I think one of the problems with political/economic systems is that we never really get past level 2 (dependability). And we never expect to be able to.
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Like the girl who needs to set her standards higher and stop sleeping with men who screw her over, we need to learn how to have higher standards for what kinds of trust are possible. But how?
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A nitpick: "compassion" seems somehow less strong than "love". Using the dictionary definition, I feel like I could have "sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others" without necessarily a guarantee that I'll act in their best interests.
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I debated using the word 'compassion' over the better translation of the Buddhist concept 'great-heartedness'. In English we use the word compassion to mean sympathy and pity; I was trying to get closest to karuna, which is something like 'powerful, expansive love'.
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Compassion and love are both so overused/abused that it’s hard to use either meaningully, but: For 4, I humbly nominate “fondness,” or “well meaning” as more distinct from 5/compassion (where that nice intention is coupled with the understanding sufficient to deliver) than love.
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I.m.e., the shitty thing about using ‘love’ in public is most people seem to hear (and presumably mean) ‘desire to the point of perceived need,’ like everyone tragically misheard the Beatles tune.
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Yeah, this is the problem with concept-smithing - you have to fight territorial battles over important words or concede defeat and retreat to less contested ones. I do think that 'fondness' and 'well-meaning' don't carry the same sense of attunement as love.
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>> don’t carry the same sense of attunement as love Right. This seems to me to call out for several axes, e.g. Conscientiousness Priority (where in their hierarchy of fucks given) Valence (positive or negative fucks given) Material attunement Emotional attunement
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Yeah I like this breakdown. There are people I trust with my life, and what I mean by that is 'I know exactly where I sit in their hierarchy of values, and it's where I prefer to sit, and within that scope I know they have my best interests at heart'.
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Yeah. For me, that kind of trust is there even for certain well-incentivized psychopaths (professionals in fields where empathy doesn’t seem to help). My second take on axes was “capability, insight, motivation.”
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You may be interested in "The Notion of Authority" by Alexander Kojève. Analysing classics Kojève deduced for types of authority which are somehow close to your types of trust.
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