Anyone know of good writing with growth-oriented arguments for marriage or long-term romantic commitments? Mostly I find stability arguments, or reactions against monogamy (uninteresting), or people taking the goodness of committed LTRs/marriage for granted.
-
-
there’s a future orientation to it - to put it coldly it’s like a way of building equity vs. paying rent?
-
It definitely aligns incentives for the relationship as a whole. If my base understanding is that we are staying together, everything builds off of that as opposed to it being one of the branches. It also incentives long term over short term actions.
-
Yeah, as far as I can tell one of the major benefits to committing to a long term relationship is that both of you expect the relationship to continue indefinitely, which likely makes it more stable. So it's a virtuous cycle thing.
-
That said I think it's difficult to understand ideal relationship models given the chaos and increased information exchange in current times. Could be something like poly -> learn, monog -> commit but the lifelong expectation of monlg is a frame we play knowing it may pass.
End of conversation
New conversation -
Loading seems to be taking a while.
Twitter may be over capacity or experiencing a momentary hiccup. Try again or visit Twitter Status for more information.