I'm not saying Tizon "did everything he could" - he clearly did not. In fact he clearly tries to thread the needle here
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The limits on what he does for Eudocia are clearly self-imposed and based on not wanting to blow up his internal image of his family
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He never does anything that requires direct confrontation with his mother, or that risks the situation being made public
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Or in fact that requires a direct person-to-person confrontation w Eudocia and what's been done to her
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And I agree that that's moral cowardice. But the courage to revolt against childhood family structures is pretty damn rare
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What's been haunting me is
@jaycaspiankang's piece abt immigrant stories, the dirty secrets we keep bc we grow up not knowing whats "normal"4 replies 7 retweets 33 likes -
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Surprising revelations you don't reveal for years because you don't remember until reminded that it was a thing to reveal
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None of my fucked up family shit rises to the level of an atrocity like enslaving someone but I still see myself in Tizon
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Which I'm not proud of, and tbh it did send me into a paranoid flurry of "Should I have reported X and started an investigation"
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But that's just an undercurrent of life in an immigrant community. You hear fucked up shit but it's not for outsiders' ears
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"X's dad beats the shit out of him but that's how it is in Taiwan", "Did you hear abt how Y's mom treats their nanny"
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And I'm not saying that's ok. Or that ppl have no right to judge. But the culture gap compounds that question of complicity
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If you want to know how much that messed me up as a kid I remember thinking "I wish I were white so I could go into foster care and be ok"
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