Anyone, TERF or not, who uses the phrase "just adopt" does not know what they are talking about and should shut the fuck up "Just adopt" is a telltale phrase of someone who wants a dismissive gotcha argument and has NEVER actually researched adoptionhttps://twitter.com/Slatzism/status/1379119773758423043 …
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I used to say things like this sometimes before I learned about this issue (not to be homophobic, though, at least) and I do really regret it Using "just adopt!" as this rhetorical gotcha so you can accuse people of being self-indulgent for wanting to have parents any other way
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Look, if you think being a foster parent is an actual moral responsibility -- which is a bad stance to take, if only pragmatically, because the vast majority of people who don't want to do it *should not be allowed to do it* -- then that responsibility applies to everyone
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If you actually believe anyone who doesn't want to take in foster kids is a horrible selfish asshole then that applies just as equally to the het couples pumping out kids with their own DNA Why the fuck wouldn't it
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You don't see how ugly this prescription is, this idea that "Well God gave me the ability to have kids the 'selfish' way, which means he wants me to do it He didn't give you those body parts, because he wants you to be the backup plan for when someone like me fucks up"
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It really bugs me that they forget this when talking about infertile people, because they're ignoring that infertility can carry real trauma with it. There was no way I could have dealt with that while also caring for a child with their own trauma.
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It really is. My parents did group homes back when graduating from care meant you got a bus ticket to the city of your choice and legally couldn't contact your foster parents for a year. Most of the work was trying to make these kids into functional adults
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And the kids would be doing everything they could to MAKE Mom and Dad hate them because the kid felt safer in a violent environment. Trust is a huge risk to a foster kid, and they'll make you work to prove that you aren't going to hurt them no matter what.
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