I dunno, maybe I'm wrong, maybe turnabout is fair play, maybe this is just the way the world works, Hollywood sculpting movie stars into idealized Greek gods is always gonna happen, and pushing back is just gonna ensure we have schlub + Aphrodite romances for all eternity
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But shit I don't like it I mean... I don't think it actually stops at parity, I think raising standards for men as a "fairness" thing -- Female gaze! Eye candy for the ladies! Girl power! -- justifies accelerating pressures for everyone
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The standards for women are *also going up at the same time* and it's easier to defend that happening because "Hey we have high standards for everyone, equal opportunity"
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There was that article about PUA redpill communities straight up telling dudes to all go out en masse for cosmetic surgery to get their jawlines fixed etc.
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And, like, I'm pro-doing-whatever-you-want with your body but the way they talk about it is pretty ugly Directly analogizing it to market capitalism, "sexual market value" "If women are doing it then you need to do it and if you do it they won't have an excuse not to do it"
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It's like -- I am not defending all the free labor dads have extracted out of moms over the generations or saying that dads shouldn't be expected to parent But when people say the "solution" to childcare derailing women's careers is "husbands suck it up" I think we're doomed
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If the solution to "Nearly 100% of women get their lives derailed and careers ruined by having kids" is "Let's change it so 50% of women get their lives derailed and careers ruined, but 50% of the time it'll happen to the men!", then your solution is... not a good solution
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Even if it's the theoretically superior "We will *both* get our lives ruined but *only* 50% ruined" -- which is pretty hard to make work in real life, because careers don't scale that way like liquids in a container -- it's still bad Like that just should not be how it works
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If you don't come up with a way to have kids that isn't life-ruining at all, then that birthrate is still gonna plummet You're gonna have plenty of men like me who are like "Okay so rather than suck it up and get my life ruined because it's my gender's turn, I'm just opting out"
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Well someone has to bear the cost of children in society, and today, since we don't have child labor, children are costly. There's no way to get around it. If you're looking at this from a cost/benefit analysis humanity simply goes extinct.
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Yeah, well... that's what's happening, by the numbers, so hey Probably someone's gotta do something but the scolding op-eds definitely aren't going to be what does it
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"someone's gotta do something" My only point is whatever you do, it's gonna involve cost, so equating cost with "your life ruined & therefore unacceptable" isn't going to lead you anywhere productive.
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I think he's saying that the cost needn't be so onerous. Society is capable of coming up with solutions to this sort of problem if we start considering it a priority.
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