1. parents almost uniformly say they get many emotional benefits from children. 2. bosses don't *necessarily* exert unreasonable control either. the issue is potential. 3. this is really not always the case at all. 4. again, this is an incredibly blinkered assertion.https://twitter.com/Hosea910/status/1338601606045192194 …
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And you know who really has to live with the consequences of your bad life decisions, the kid God, I wish it were just something like owning a boat where after a year of trying to prove you're a competent and responsible enough person to own a boat you could just sell it
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Most of my complaints about being a parent concern how hard parenting in this particular society is? And there aren’t many safety nets. The parenting part is fine (hard, but yes I signed up for it) everything else is terrifying.
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Sure, and our society leans towards compulsory parenthood by not supporting medically accurate sex ed & generally restricting access to reproductive healthcare. And then Collective We offer parents virtually no structural support. We can do better.
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Before abortion was legal and now not easy to get, the decision whether or not to become a parent wasn't necessarily voluntary. The birth control pill wasn't available until five years after I graduated from high school. Best we had was a diaphragm. Problematic.
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I think a lot of people assume having kids must be a great idea that works out for everyone, because their grandparents did it... but are often totally clueless about how limited their grandparents' ability to avoid it actually was.
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I think some of the underlying cultural ideas around parenting were formed in a time when women, at least, often had very little control over whether or not they had kids... and the choice/control factor has DRASTICALLY gone up but we haven't thought through what that changes
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Some of these cultural aphorisms people go to make a lot more sense when you assume a kid's mother really didn't choose to have them either, and pregnancy both endangered her life and increased material hardship. A lot of people's modern parenting decisions are... not that
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Generally agree, however there's a huge stigma around women admitting that parenting is hard & seeking help, so I usually extend sympathy. Many things are voluntary yet also hard, such as getting a PhD - we should be able to talk about the strain, even if it's self-inflicted.
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