"But Adrienne," you say, out of genuine ignorance and not because you're a bigot, "In what sense do asexuals face legal discrimination?" When i immigrated to Canada, I HAD TO PROMISE THE QUEEN THAT I WOULD REGULARLY FUCK MY SPOUSE.
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I mean, i didn't have to promise her DIRECTLY, but i had to swear on official government paperwork with her name right there on it that i have "conjugal relations" with my spouse and would continue to do so for a period of at least 2 years after the date on the paperwork.
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Literally if i were asexual (i'm not, which is why i can tell this as if it's a funny anecdote and not life-or-death discriminatory fuckery) the Fuck Police could DEPORT MY ASS FOR HAVING A FAKE MARRIAGE.
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It's not just immigration, either. In many, many legal systems, the entire CONCEPT of "what is a legal marriage" is premised on people who fuck each other, or at least intend to fuck each other. If you don't fuck? Your marriage can be declared invalid!
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Yup, marriage is construed under the common law as consisting of the three Cs (consummation, cohabitation, commingling of finances)
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If any one of these is missing, it's grounds to challenge the marriage is invalid for the purpose of annulment etc, if all three are then the annulment is pretty much guaranteed
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Some people may fail to achieve one of these things, but it takes a true, pink-streaked, procyon rube to fail the hat trick
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Replying to @Nymphomachy @arthur_affect
In Canada, for immigration purposes at least, the definition also includes monogamy. "Open marriage" is, we were told in no uncertain terms, invalid according to the Canadian Immigration Bureau.
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Yeah well The insistence that I marry my spouse was made in the context of Trump having gotten elected and me wanting to write out medical/mental health Powers of Attorney to personal friends since I didn't trust my mother I just wanted to push my biomom out of any emergencies
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Yeah unfortunately under the common law that fits the definition of a sham marriage, same as when people get married to get a green card (even if they're genuinely good friends who do it all voluntarily) It sucks
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But, you know, it sucks in multiple directions, thanks to our society's one-size-fits-all idea of marriage Like there is the argument to be made that such arrangements can become exploitative, because marriage implies a level of "life partnership" beyond such an arrangement
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Like if someone is your spouse they do in fact get a certain presumption of good faith when taking money out of your bank account (the third C) or just walking into your house (the second C)
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And unfortunately even though marital rape is now, thankfully, illegal, they still get a lot of benefit of the doubt re: situations involving the first C
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