I see that you've misapplied slippery slope to consent, without understanding that a common method that predators use on minors is misuse of the concept of obedience to authority. Consent is the concept that clarifies the limits of authority.
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Replying to @SophiaCharmed @Bird92Enormous and
A ton of the "safeguarding" narratives these folks use are the "outside predator" narrative -- they start with the baseline assumption that parents and family are "safe" and anyone who threatens that established authority is a potential danger
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Replying to @arthur_affect @SophiaCharmed and
The problem being that statistics show this is exactly backwards in terms of who's most likely to abuse a child, and this kind of social structure is exactly what allows abusers to get away with it long-term with impunity
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Replying to @arthur_affect @SophiaCharmed and
Yeah - which means that the education around consent is two-pronged: it's a strong affirmation of your right to *refuse* to give your consent.
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Replying to @mssilverstein @SophiaCharmed and
I remember the lights clicking on in my head when I read that Oscar the Grouch wasn't just a punchline in Sesame Street, CTW put him there because of hippie liberal children's psych research from Dr. Spock et al about "the importance of a child's 'No'"
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
That it was very important to model for children the right to say "No", that it's a *fundamental* right that you get to exercise even if you're exercising it "irrationally" -- if you're just cranky, or pissy, or sulky, or just plain trolling to be an asshole Your "No" is sacred
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
Oscar gets to opt out of things, he gets to detach from the group and be the unpleasant loner on the sidelines, he gets to say "No" when everyone else says "Yes", he gets to think of trash as treasure and treasure as trash, he gets to be "perverse" and "contrarian"
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
And the rules of the show say the other characters must respect this They do *not* tolerate him crossing the line and hurting another person, they draw their own firm boundaries he can't violate, but neither can they violate his He is *allowed to be a Grouch*
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
This was a big deal, because in developmental psych they talk about you getting a "No!" phase in the so-called "Terrible Twos" and beyond, often recurring at different stages Getting "fussy", getting "bratty", saying "No!" to things you actually want just to prove you can
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
This is, in fact, a really important phase of psychological development where you start to get the sense you are a different person from your parents and you have impulses and desires separate from just doing what your parents tell you to do
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The so-called "teenage rebellion" people make fun of is just another iteration of the cycle, trying on whole value systems or belief systems just for the sake of proving that you can
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
Hell, the "midlife crisis" is yet another recurrence, directed at long-gone parents when you realize they got their hooks deeper in you and determined more of your core values than you realized when you first moved out It's in this fighting with your past self that we grow
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Replying to @arthur_affect @mssilverstein and
And anyway Parents in the old days were huge assholes about the "Terrible Twos" and did NOT "respect their child's 'No'" AT ALL My parents sure as hell didn't, lots of fun family stories about literally dragging a screaming toddler into the car repeatedly
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