No, it's both It's pretty obvious that one reason people are "intimidated" by having kids today and opt out of it is the perception that if you don't do everything possible to give your kids the best possible life you are a bad person for having them
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
Conservatives think this is in itself a social problem and try to push back on it Bryan Caplan's "Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids" was a book that famously took the stance that parents should give themselves a break, that parents are too hard on themselves
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
"You've already done the most important thing, you've given the child the gift of existence in the first place As long as you meet your other obligations at a basic level you should view bringing them into the world as a wholly positive thing" I hate this mindset passionately
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
I strongly believe that the idea of parenting SHOULD be intimidating, that a parent who falls short of giving their child the best possible childhood IS culpable for doing them a great harm, and therefore far, far fewer people should be parents
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
This is the world's biggest possible consent issue IMO At least in a world where contraception is readily available, to steal a living, breathing, thinking being from the void and force it to exist is inherently a choice that is imposed on that being, by its parents
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @arthur_affect and
It's impossible to ask ahead of time, and by the time that being is an adult it probably won't want to reverse the decision But the least you owe that being for that imposition is to make its well-being your number one priority
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @arthur_affect and
Being a dad eventually has always been part of my plan, so this ""quandary"" is something I have to take seriously If the time does come, if I'm not 100% sure that I could spend the rest of my life putting the kid/s first, effective immediately, then I just won't have kids.
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @arthur_affect and
By even thinking about that, you're probably doing better than most.
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Replying to @Includius @arthur_affect and
I appreciate that! But obviously I don't want to be complacent about it. Like "ah yeah, I've done the work, haha, we're good". No. The work is forever The fact is that I'm an abject mess of a person, and I'm not sure I'll ever be up to the standard I've set
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @Includius and
At least I understand where this extremist take on Chu and yours part comes from now. You're extreme progressives to the point where you consider existence itself to be a violation of your right to autonomy.
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If God were real he should be put on trial for creating the universe, yes
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Replying to @arthur_affect @Hi_Mike_Gorrie and
Well I'm not a nihilist and luckily society isn't structured around a pathological hatred of the universe itself.
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Replying to @spqtemple02 @Hi_Mike_Gorrie and
Philosophically it really is one or the other extreme, the middle ground is not stable ground Either you owe your child a debt for bringing them into existence or they owe you a debt for having been brought into existence
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