Ah, so we've switched over from the question of what *should* happen to what we can realistically expect to happen Of course I don't realistically expect parents to surrender power -- I don't expect anyone who has power to surrender it without a fight
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
I do think that, as a society, the demographic transition and a smaller percentage of our population being parents is both a reflection of increased standards for parents and makes it easier for adults to take a moral stance limiting parental power, as a feedback loop
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Replying to @arthur_affect @Includius and
I don't think it's so much increased standards for parents as an increase in socially acceptable life choices that don't involve building a traditional family with kids.
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Replying to @spqtemple02 @Includius and
No, it's both It's pretty obvious that one reason people are "intimidated" by having kids today and opt out of it is the perception that if you don't do everything possible to give your kids the best possible life you are a bad person for having them
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
Conservatives think this is in itself a social problem and try to push back on it Bryan Caplan's "Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids" was a book that famously took the stance that parents should give themselves a break, that parents are too hard on themselves
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
"You've already done the most important thing, you've given the child the gift of existence in the first place As long as you meet your other obligations at a basic level you should view bringing them into the world as a wholly positive thing" I hate this mindset passionately
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
I strongly believe that the idea of parenting SHOULD be intimidating, that a parent who falls short of giving their child the best possible childhood IS culpable for doing them a great harm, and therefore far, far fewer people should be parents
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Replying to @arthur_affect @spqtemple02 and
This is the world's biggest possible consent issue IMO At least in a world where contraception is readily available, to steal a living, breathing, thinking being from the void and force it to exist is inherently a choice that is imposed on that being, by its parents
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @arthur_affect and
It's impossible to ask ahead of time, and by the time that being is an adult it probably won't want to reverse the decision But the least you owe that being for that imposition is to make its well-being your number one priority
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Replying to @Hi_Mike_Gorrie @spqtemple02 and
Right, my views on parenting are extremely strongly informed by my general antinatalism Which is itself extremely controversial so I don't often talk about it anymore But the response to my position is often "Then hardly anybody would have kids!" and I'm like "Yeah"
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I always "surrender" at the very beginning of these convos I don't personally think I'd make a good parent at all, I think I'd harm my kids in all kinds of ways, and that's why I've cut off that possibility before it can start I freely admit that
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Replying to @arthur_affect @Hi_Mike_Gorrie and
But I think I'd probably make about as good a parent as YOU
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