Okay but dude the word "privilege" is inappropriate to apply to a freely chosen option I'm "privileged" compared to someone who involuntarily became a parent by getting pregnant at 16 and having their right to an abortion denied I'm not "privileged" relative to you
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Replying to @arthur_affect @izs
Unless you genuinely think the parent/childfree divide is analogous to something like sexual orientation, where you are wired as a person so you can only be happy if you have kids and other people as wired so they can only be happy if they don't
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Replying to @arthur_affect @izs
In which case, sure, yes, you have a point - I get a certain level of happiness "for free" that you only get through years of grueling labor and $250k at least in monetary costs etc etc
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Replying to @arthur_affect @izs
But if you really believe that's a fundamental divide then we've got bigger problems Because even today the kind of person I am gets stigmatized a LOT more by society than the kind you are, and this is amplified 100x for women
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Replying to @arthur_affect @izs
I haven't nailed down exactly how I feel about this but I currently think it's more helpful to treat it as a choice than an innate orientation A lot of childfree people could've had kids and chose not to You could've not had kids but chose to
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IMO the stigma isn't really the issue; adopting a child is expensive and difficult and absent greatly increased reproductive coercion & child trafficking (à la Baby Scoop Era), will continue to be so But I take your broader point and telling someone who desperately wants kids
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Replying to @patiencemosher @izs
Adopting an older child through foster care isn't so much *expensive* through upfront costs -- the state has tried as hard as it can to mitigate this through subsidy -- but *fundamentally* difficult in ways that people who say "Why not just adopt?" don't appreciate
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That said, if your goal is actually altruism -- doing your part to make sure our country has a happy and productive next generation after yours -- this is obviously a far, far more urgent need than you personally biologically reproducing
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