And that shitty relationships that last too long are like that thing in your garage you bought ten years ago and have never used that's gathering dust And every time you stub your toe on it looking for something else you come to resent it more, even though it did nothing wrong
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It's not the damn bike's fault you promised yourself you'd start biking to work every day and then you just didn't because you're not that kind of person Don't blame the thing for you spending your money foolishly and not following through Don't punish it by keeping it here
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And yeah I mean Shitty dysfunctional relationships are about feeling *owed*, about holding a *debt* You're still here when you don't want to be because you're still hoping to get something you think you *deserve*from those sunk costs, even if you're miserable now
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And yeah the burden goes away when you realize the debt's just not getting paid and you wipe it off the books And then you don't have to be mad anymore
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Kondo even says if it literally is a completely stupid purchase that you never used once, you have to find a way to thank the thing, not blame it You tell that shiny sports car you can't make the payments on anymore, "Thank you for letting me have a beautiful dream"
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Man that's actually so much harder for humans than for things I wish I'd been thinking about this ten years ago
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I’ve spent a lot of time in family Court. Extremely yes. And coaching people to understand that fact is real and valuable work. It’s why family law attorneys have to be social workers and therapists as well
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