Based on an AITA post I just saw, help me out a second, as an intersex woman who will never conceive. Is there an idea taken as axiomatic that a person who willfully remains absent from the occasion of their partner giving birth is committing an unspeakable moral dereliction?
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Like I'm confused or at least surprised because what I'm hearing seems to indicate there is zero possible mitigating context, if you're not there for any reason you're pure fucking evil, the height of bastardry And it just kind of... I don't understand the intensity, like at all
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I mean the context of the post was—and we'll just go with text here, not subtext—somebody who saves lives for a living being on duty during a climate catastrophe with a friend who got the news their grandfather was on his death bed and staying so the other could be with him.
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It you take that situation at face value (it does seem a little contrived) then the calculus being employed there seems a lot like reasoning I would use. Like, somebody dying is gone forever? Assuming they're important to you a death usually takes priority over a birth?
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Like you notify your partner, you send someone to be there in your stead, you FaceTime or something if at all possible, but Death wins (and yeah a baby can be stillborn too but if that's likely to happen there will typically be some indication in advance)
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Like if that is literally the ethical problem then DEONTOLOGICALLY SPEAKING that is the most prosocial choice to me. The exception being if somebody was expected to die in advance, because you have a social responsibility to say your goodbyes _before_ you have to save lives
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Also like The responsible thing would be to discuss such a scenario in advance? If there's a nonzero chance you won't be on hand for a childbirth then you and your partner need to evaluate any contingencies for that not to be totally emotionally devastating IF it happens
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I don't know I guess the idea that somebody would unmitigatedly prioritize and center my needs over everybody else's, completely without question, in any circumstance, just seems like a flight of fancy to me, or a decadent luxury It doesn't seem like the kind of thing I'd get
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I won't ever have a kid, the Gods have denied me that option, but whenever I imagined being a mother it always played out in my mind like the kind of journey I'd have to undertake alone I never imagined I'd have anyone there to hold my hand
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Idk going over my feelings on this I guess my conclusion is just "I don't get the cishets" I could not really begin to fathom another human being going out of their way to support me and center me like that even on the worst day of my life must be nice to have guarantees
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This may or may not be a cishet thing but it's supposed to be a monogamy thing, like that's what your wedding vows say you're supposed to do
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