Why does Twitter conversation feel less exhausting than in-person conversation?
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1-1 texting is the most exhausting for me. It’s high obligation: if they don’t respond to me it’s awkward and I feel bad for putting on them. But it’s also low signal, I don’t have the benefit of body language to know if they actually want a convo right now
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actually on reflection it’s only the first like five min of texting. Once it’s going I have enough signal what they feel and the issue I brought up goes back to ~zero. Though post-pandemic like all my texts are just “I like in person more, when will I see you next” and logistics
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It's funny—during the pandy, threads would often "upgrade" into "hey, when can we schedule a video hangout?" But now when things go this way I tend toward "I think I'm gonna visit X place late this summer… let's jam then! or: when are you next in town?" Feel like a sociopath.
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(I also feel an aliquot of "thanks, self, for realizing that you don't really enjoy async chat about interesting topics, and you *also* don't enjoy video chat!—and for pushing for what you want!"… but/and, "am I gonna get Left Behind for not being able to use these comm forms?")