Tickled by 's notion of "cheerful price", as in ~"At what price would you happily X without expending any social capital, feeling instinctively 'yay' about it, without any subtle feeling of imposition?"
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I don't quite feel comfortable with it in a casual context as proposed ("do my laundry"): I think the "conversion rate" between friendship capital and dollars is difficult to pinpoint and can subtly shift into resentment in hindsight.
But I like it for professional requests!
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Yes, that's my strong sense—not that I have much experience there.
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oh by “shown” i mean studies. it turns an intrinsic motivation (caring, reciprocity) to an extrinsic one. there are quite a few studies, i remember some cited in Stumbling on Happiness and Punished by Rewards iirc (gluten brain)
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Ah, even better!
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