This point about the damage done by "averaging advice" is striking:
dalton.substack.com/p/letter-to-my
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When two (or more) thoughtful people offer advice that badly conflicts, or when your [by which I mean: my!] own instinct conflicts with advice, it's tempting to average the advice.
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This often works really badly. It seems to be better to (1) identify the conflict; (2) work pretty hard to resolve it; and (3) then bear down hard on whatever you decide.
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I think the reason it's tempting not to do this is because it means acting against the advice of someone who may be very thoughtful and insightful. But the benefit is in part in (2) (you think pretty hard); and when you bear down hard (3),...
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you learn faster, because any error becomes apparent more quickly. So you can course correct, if needed, and in the meantime you've learned much more than you would have from averaged advice.
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Yes! Also reminds me of: