I want to be very clear about this bc every time I post about men who murder, people—mostly, but not all, men—respond with some variation of "but but but women are violent too!" That happens. But that's not what we're talking about.
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If the only thing you have to say about the role of young, white men in mass shootings in the U.S. is "BUT WOMEN," consider why that is.
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thank you to this cool fellow for proving my point so well.pic.twitter.com/6YQfu0WDsF
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It is a stupid term that clouds the issue.
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what name would you give it? I mean, we can call it “patriarchy” since that’s also accurate, but my experience is that people piss on the name because they don’t want to hear about the subject

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It is like saying the AIDS Crisis was the result of gay bathhouse culture. It is debatably true, but it isn’t going to stop anyone from dying. Don’t shame the people whom you are trying to persuade.
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in your case, I think we can call it “fragile masculinity”
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Glad to hear you are open minded.
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buddy women have been trying to have civil, cooperative conversations about this for DECADES. They haven’t, and you don’t, want to hear an accurate name because it hurts hurt your feelings? THAT’s THE FUCKING PROBLEM
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If the only way you’re willing to be an advocate is if others talk to you the way *you* demand they do, you were never going to be an advocate anyway.
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So just admit it and get out of the way so the adults can talk
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I love the term because separating masculinity from toxic, it makes you think what other healthier masculinities we could be promoting instead.
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That's not a black thing. Russia (a mostly white nation) has high rates of anti-trans violence too. You wouldn't say toxic blackness because none of the negative aspects of black communities are unique to just black communities.
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You missed the point. Read my second reply.
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You don't understand what you're talking about. Happy to help if you want to. Sorry to be blunt but this whole convo is absurd.
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Toxic masculinity is definitely a huge problem especially in the US, but it’s also co-created by some of the actions & preferences of SOME women. Men are MOSTLY responsible but some women in their lives communicate to them that empathy etc in men is not desirable in a man.
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That’s why we have the phrases “internalized sexism” and “internalized misogyny”
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So how about internalized misandry?
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Yes, men have that.
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Woman have that too



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Do you really not understand the difference between externally and internally directed expression of beliefs/attitudes? Or do you think the rest of us don't?
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Uh, I don't. But I'd add that women who ask for it, toxic masculinity, have been brain washed by toxic masculinity to equate it with masculinity or desirability. Probably Daddy's fault. Until they realize their perception is part of the problem, more boys will be raised to this.
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