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kind of rich of someone with a trans flag in their screen name to insist on using someone's wallet name when they specifically and very visibly requested otherwise
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I call people by their preferred names no matter their reasons, they don't need to show me their spent leuprorelin injectors or estradiol patches to qualify for it
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So you're acknowledging that he now publicly uses the name "Scott Siskind", but asserting that he would prefer people continue to refer to him as "Scott Alexander"? Am I understanding your point correctly? Surely if he had such a preference he'd have said so in "Still Alive"?
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When I grew up into the internet, we had strong anti-dox norms, and for me at least the no-deadname rule follows naturally from that. When a friend has a nick or other kind of chosen name, I use that often to the point of forgetting what someone's meatspace name is.
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I have no disagreement with any of that. And I think the NYT made the wrong call when they insisted on publishing Scott's last name. But none of that explains why it's wrong to call someone by the name they use when publicly stating "my name is..." without caveat.
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I think this whole "I deleted my blog for half a year because people decided to spread my wallet name all over the internet for my enemies to see and use" business is sufficient caveat. You may not, maybe.
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and maybe I'm just oldschool (I've dropped out of the queer scene so long ago that the whole transppl vs trans ppl debate has completely missed me until now) but to me, yes it's hypocrisy to deny anyone the right to a name esp. when you come from a community it was critical to