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u can raise a dog from young, handle literally every single piece of poop it poops, be w it almost all the time and it will STILL have a Secret Life of Dog. an interiority u have no access to. frustrated dog owners who don’t “get” their bad behavior

it’s the same w children. the parents assume a similar 100% understanding even though the actual synchronization is often far less. just like w dogs, they assume “I HATE YOU!” never occurs

bc of the guilt of being raised this also is never directly said except in the most broken of families but any relationship necessarily has these misunderstandings and extremes of emotions. ESPECIALLY intimate ones

a lot of bad behavior imo is due to not recognizing these “i hate you” signals. wanting a toy, wanting to go out, the frustrations that build up from not getting these can get explosive even if they seem trivial