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to increase the expression of love is to spend more time together doing the mundane of washing dishes, chopping wood, and cleaning up poop the "sexiness" is at max during the first encounter & starts dropping or rather, the sexiness gets more "hidden" in the mundane

one of the reasons that the male is traditionally older is due to its slower maturation. it needs to "prove itself" before it feels it can settle down that is... the female can sense that the male is not able to walk the love path with her past a certain threshold

unequal maturation dates means that the female can only be viewed as a toy or trophy it is tragic just like when couples have different expiration dates and the old lady is left to die alone. *takes a bite*

females who come from broken families tend to have "lower" standards because they don't see hope of love in the final destination they maximize for initial sexiness and don't care much about lack of maturity since they don't plan on walking it to its end

or maybe they settle for a penultimate/pseudo-ultimate goal like dog ownership owning a dog is a green flag b/c it indicates ability to wake up in the morning, scoop poop everyday, and go outside on a regular schedule. love despite the mundane.

one of the ways that less sexy male hoomans try to game this system is to signal higher maturation in order to make up for lack of sexiness "oh i'll never leave u you're my goddess i want to have 100 children with you"

it often drives the female away bc 1/ it indicates a desire to have ANY family w ANYONE. the female if seen as a commoditized gateway towards family (and a kingdom for the male) she, who wants to be CHOSEN not NEEDED, sees this as disgustinghttps://twitter.com/a_yawning_cat/status/1397987095906459649?s=20 …

2/ as mentioned above, the desired ability is to find sexiness IN the mundane. being simply mundane is not the goal. she does not want to hunker down in Doom Bunker with a crazy paranoid who thinks the world is out to get him she wants to LIVE in a safe world & express Herself