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"good" and "bad" are similar. they only make sense as a judgement if you are looking back on a past chapter any system of morality thus already believes itself to Know the Story and b/c of this will subconsciously lean towards authoritarian implementation of this truth

although often rooted in noble intent and a unique perspective, it misses how its CURRENT actions are outside the story and thus outside the morality of the framework (such as the forceful implementation of the system itself!)

e.g. if given my experience i confidently declare that "cats can murder rats" is moral b/c otherwise there will be lots of cat boredom i should also be aware that declaring this as a global moral system is a moral risk outside my ability to predict

the ability to know what to do only AFTER it has happened is a reflective ability. however it's useless in situations that demand reaction this is true in sports as well as walking away from a convo suddenly realizing sth smart to say

trouble arises when the reflective skill masquerades of reactive skill. the coach misinterprets its higher level understanding with performative skill

one example is w/ heavy protocolization of relationships like colleague-talk and sex the sensitivity over words like blacklist/whitelist or "may i have permission to hold your hand" is rooted in real trauma, brought forward by brave souls whose pov were largely ignored

how the unique reflective worldview is used to prescribe a cure for a reactive problem lead to awkwardness it's like a coach constantly giving advice as the athlete is playing. it only leads to ineffectiveness and awkwardness that is mostly performative

the intent is virtuous "hey i'm trying to help you" but it's completely oblivious to the reactive necessities of the moment. e.g. this causes a lot of arguments when couples teach each other how to drive