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bc the attac comes prior to the emotional response, the emotion as trigger is unnecessary so the emotion itself becomes unnecessary

the emotion as trigger is a social “buffer” where the action is intentionally delayed. e.g. if someone insults you but then it turns out to be a joke, the teasing actually builds the relationship

the more the action domain relies on instant reaction, the less “social” it is. e.g. war, video games, finance, hunting, sports, etc... even a game like chess is like this bc it slows down time of an instant reaction domain

anger then is an immature response if the buffer is too small (not giving someone a chance) or is triggered and maxed by overly sensitive issues (e.g. calling a guy shorty mcsmallpenis)

however maturity doesn’t mean lack of an ager response just as a guard dog that gets mad at nobody is an ineffective guard dog it’s the ability to communicate the state of the anger buffer. to display self’s and read other’s

e.g. if you don’t show anger at all and suddenly explode, that’s immature. but if warn “u wouldn’t like me when i’m angry” and they push it, then hulk smash away. it becomes a duel rather than random destruction

society pressures 2 types of hoomans to repress their anger. incels and females the effect is a facade of niceness while the anger eats away at the heart. either get angry and face social repercussion, or swallow it and burn from the inside

this leads to resentment of those who *can* openly display their anger in the incel’s case this leads to fantasies of power and in the female’s case fantasies of a world where anger (and men) is not needed