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"After my leave, the manager I loved started treating me as fragile. He tried to analyze me, suggesting that I drank too much caffeine, didn’t sleep enough or needed more cardiovascular exercise. Speaking out irreparably damaged one of my most treasured relationships."

" it was still significantly less than my competing offers. I was told that the Google finance office calculated what I was worth to the company. I couldn’t help thinking that this calculus included the complaint I’d filed and the time I’d taken off as a consequence."

"So I took a role at a firm to which I felt no emotional attachment. I like my colleagues, but I’ve never met them in person. ... My manager is 26 — too young for me to expect any parental warmth from him. When people ask me how I feel about my new position, I shrug: It’s a job."

almost every surrogate family runs into this kind of issue eventually. real families have traditions around incest but b/c surrogate families don't discharge sexual polarity, eventually this sort of thing breaks down the "family"

the only long-term effective surrogate families are comprised of solely a single gender orientation like the military, amazonian warriors, and engineering teams. (engineering teams that try to integrate a hot girl tend to implode & disintegrate)

at google, everyone's level isn't public under the display name, but it can be trivially looked up and everyone does it and PRETENDS not to have done it i wonder how much of it is just peacocking.... allows for hidden undercurrents of dominant/submissive relationships

at facebook (where the author is now) levels cannot be looked up except at the manager level it leads to far more "effective" working relationships because status is stripped from interactions and it's just all about hitting the psc milestones for the $$$ & FIRE retire

when you strip social ranking from relationships you also strip away sexual polarity. then no one is motivated for their moral crusades anymore everything is very rational, very amoral, very numbers driven