this can feel really unfair when the time gap is more than a hooman lifespan. children are needed to continue the dream. (many immigrant workers trying to send their children to school understand this intuitively. )
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yes the tiger mom makes sacrifices herself but imagine if u could get the same tiger child result with less of the seething-resentment-for-parents-spilling-into-subconscious-self-and-self-race-hate
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but because a certain sacrifice feels expected and necessary instead of leveraging the secret of exponential processes a tradeoff is made in the form of stunted people skills as well as self-understanding
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self-understanding is maimed similar to immune system suppression post organ transplant. bc the parent needs control and is living “through” the child, the child’s personal compass is neutered (and often never recovers)
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bc the internal system now has no violent immune cells that can fend off foreign invaders and set boundaries necessary for a sense of sovereignty it now requires a perfectly sterile and stable environment which the parent lovingly provides
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