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the question of who is being taken advantage of by who and how that playing field can be equalized can be made a lot more interesting by asking: is the ability to be taken advantage of an advantage in itself?

there's a theory that female agreeableness is an advantage for child-rearing. otherwise there would be no way to take care of an infant w/ such a long helpless/curious phase w/o throwing it out a window

this same agreeableness is also found within people that society may classify as "bullies" or "alphas" or "confident". the positive/negative phrasing varies but at the heart of it is degree of agreeableness.

agreeableness by itself in a vacuum, in purely competitive contexts is obviously a weakness. but in tribal/family/work contexts they may be the critical thing that holds everything together yet is overlooked b/c its contribution can't be measured.

men can also be agreeable, though they often need to know there place within a dominance hierarchy and know clearly why they are there and what they need to do to go up (and feel that they have a chance if they pay their dues)

if everyone were a special snowflake then no thing would get then. people would just fight all the time. imo not everyone should even BE special snowflakes. many people (men and women) may actually prefer the sideline support role as long as they are appreciated.