Rich guy: "gold digger!" Sexy guy: "shallow!" Rich, sexy, tall, spiritual, generous, etc...: "Ok, no ulterior motives I guess. I must concede to Perfect Guy's right to propagate more than myself."
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Desire for Perfect Guy can also be symptomatic of dysfunction even though it is an ideal. Tough Guy offers safety & protection in unsafe environments. Perfect Guy offers safety & protection in unsafe *mental* environments charged w/ judgement.
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"You make me feel unsafe, I'd never be w/ u" "Oh ok, no worries haha, I understand." (Internal dialogue: "HOW COULD YOU YOU SHALLOW ... etc ... I'M SUCH A NICE GUY"
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Being w/ Perfect Guy causes the internal dialogue to shift: "Why am I such a loser, I should work out more, make more money, read more philosophy, gain millions of followers, etc..." "Thanks god that guy left to climb that mountain. I was afraid to hurt his feelings."
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