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There's also no possible way to truly hurt someone else. If you have a lot of shared experiences it's possible in a way forcing someone to watch a horror movie can hurt someone.

Litmus test for "True Adulthood". You can watch any terrible horrible thing as long as it's a movie. You can think ANY thought without that thought taking over your brain.

At the individual level it's thoughts like "my whole family is murder raped". The 'True Adult' figure is the one who can and does think such thoughts as as a way to take the necessary precautions to protect what he(she) lives for.

A non-violent soul sees that everything is a movie. Even the most serious of movies is just a cartoon compared to reality. (Thought it gets kinda difficult when movies are so good they become like parallel realities. )

The movies our minds make up feel super real. Our "network" is basically just a group of people who are united by the commonality of what movies they watched together. E.g. "we were mutuals on twitter during COVID" is kind of a mini movie.

There's some cross cultural movie equivalence that also helps with connecting. Instead of watching "Jaws" together it "First Scary Movie Seen as a Child". Or "nerdy outcast who enjoyed playing around with computers."

A community is basically a bunch of people who know how to roughly model each other because of enough shared experiences and stability within the models.

A community is formed via the glue of "I'll be there for you." and "I know you'll be there for me." It can be as small as knowing you'll be at the grocery store and will accept dollars. Or as big as calling you when a parent/partner/child dies.