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The pain from the threat of loss of life/light is real and all of that burden is placed on someone else. The more you love them, the harder you whip. MUST. MUST. MUST.

This fear is highly correlated with immaturity and being stuck with the "Love is you being in my home" phase. Which is also highly correlated with cowardice due to the inability to let go of the "home" and venture out.

A lot of inter-generational conflict comes from the pain that is generated by this "Whip of Love". What feels like Love (the Highest Good) to you feels like Burning Devil Hate to someone else.

For men, there is a unique aspect of love that traditionally isn't open to women. This is the "I want you to be able to stand on your own two feet without me. I want you to be a Man™ " ritual of leaving the spartan child in the dark forest of wolves.

It's the most painful and fiercest of the true forms of love. It can even feel worse than the most painful of the false forms of love. When someone we love abandons us it can feel worse than torture. Cutting yourself can literally better.

(Depression is falling out of love with yourself.)

That this love is traditionally reserved for men is not great since women also exist as conscious beings. No matter who you are, you will face existential loneliness and despair. It's not just "Men" who have to be able to stand on their own two feet.

Yet think about the "throw the child into forest" ritual. The blood and sacrifice is *necessary* just like dying of animals is necessaries for evolution via gene propagation. You need to stack rank and cull. Sons sacrifice themselves for society. "War Heroes"