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"If Zeke’s dad continues to ignore his feelings and needs in this way, Zeke will most likely grow up to feel that his dad doesn’t really know him as a person at all. But he won’t understand the reasons for that because he can’t remember what didn’t happen. He will blame himself."

"Because depressed parents appear put-upon, beleaguered or overwhelmed by the ordinary demands of parenting, their children don’t always learn that they are worthwhile and so are at risk to become depressed themselves in adulthood."

"By putting their work first, workaholics convey the message to their children that their feelings and needs are of lesser importance."

"Everyone knows that if a child’s parent dies, the child will suffer with sadness, loss, and possibly depression. No one thinks about this being the case when a child loses a parent to success."

"If the sociopath succeeds in controlling you, he may actually feel some love for you. The flip side of that coin is that if he fails at controlling you, he will despise you."

"Adults who grew up emotionally neglected often seem normal on the surface, but are frequently unaware of the structural flaw in their foundation. They also have no idea that their childhood played a role. Instead they tend to blame themselves for difficulties."

"The fuel of life is feeling. If we’re not filled up in childhood, we must fill ourselves as adults. Otherwise, we will find ourselves running on empty."

"It refers to the drive to need no one, or more specifically, the fear of being dependent. Counter-dependent people go to great lengths to avoid asking for help, to not appear, or feel, needy.They will make every effort not to rely on another person."